POSITIVE PARENTING OF CHILDREN; Suggestion may helpful to manage your children.
Learning to share is an important part of growing up. Children are just beginning to learn about ownership and can be possessive about their things. They may snatch, push another child away or refuse to share a favorite toy. Parents with two or more children may face sharing problems every day. Problems can also occur over sharing when other children on outings. This article gives some suggestions to help you teach your children how to share.
Children cannot see things from another person’s point of view, so reasoning with your child isn’t best way to teach sharing. Children may love having other children around, but tend to play rather with them. Often they don’t share at first, it takes time and effort to teach children how to share and play together. Typically, by four to five years of age children have learnt to share and understand turn-taking.
How to Help Prevent Problems with Sharing
- Set Your Children up in Separate Activities If You Cannot Watch Them, Make sure there is some space between them.
- Be Fair, Treat each Child Equally to Avoid between Them. Treat each child the same – it takes more than one to fight.
- YPrepare Your Child for Visiting. Explain to your Children that You would Like them to Share Some of Their Toys.
Set out the toys and tell other they are welcomed to play with them
- Treat Visitors the Same as Your Own Child. In your home ask visitors to follow your rules, ask other children to play gently.
- Insist on Fair Play, Your Children cannot be expected to Share if Others Would Not Share. Be prepared to Insist on fair play
How to Teach Your Child to Share
- Set a Good Example, Teach your children by showing them how you share.
- Select activities which encourage sharing when you have time. Watch and praise and cooperation.
- Praise your Child for Sharing. When every time your children waiting their turn, sharing and letting others play with their toys.
- Catch your Child if They are about to Snatch. If your child snatches or pushes other children away from the toys, tell them what they have done is wrong.
- Give the Toy to the Other Child. If your child refuse to do as you have asked, take the toy from them and give it to other children.
- Use Quit Time. If your child snatch again or protest, put them in quit time. Quit time involves removing your attention from your child and having them sit quietly on the edge of the activity for a short time. When he/she quit return him/her to the activity.
How to Manage Sharing Problems When You Didn’t See What Happened
- Help the child decide who can play with the toy first, instead of fighting over it. Let each child go first at different times – no favorites.
- If a solution is reached, praise the children for sharing and taking turns.
- If the children protest or refuse to share, put both of them into quit time. Return the children to the activity and remind them to share and take turn